Some people like to give and some like to receive, but with the 69 position you can have the best of both worlds. This position is designed for mutual, simultaneous oral sex. It may be a little more difficult to concentrate on what you’re doing with your tongue when she’s busy at work between your legs, but the novelty of being pleasured while pleasuring her is one that is worth the effort.When it comes to 69ing, there are some dos and don’ts. In order to make it a pleasurable experience for both of you, check out AM’s 69 etiquette. For the purposes of this advice, we’re referring to 69ing as foreplay, so we won’t cover ejaculation etiquette, which could probably inspire an entire article of its own.
Take a shower
As with all sexual acts, especially those involving oral stimulation, it’s imperative to be clean and well groomed down below. Nobody wants to be greeted by unpleasant odors or a jungle of hair; this is bad 69 etiquette. So if you’re going to try out the 69 position, clean up and keep it trimmed. Better yet, jump in the shower together so you can ensure both of you smell and taste fresh and clean.
Initiate gradually
You should make a point of easing her into it, especially if it’s the first time you’ve 69ed with her. Don’t just throw her on top. Make the transition part of your foreplay and gradually get into position. She should take the hint from there.
She goes on top
If one of you has to be on top in the 69 position, it should always be the girl. Chances are, you are heavier than she is and allowing her to take the top position will prevent her from being crushed if the 69 session takes a while, or if you get too carried away. This also helps you to avoid accidentally kneeling on her hair. Another benefit of her being on top is that she can control the speed, depth and angle of penetration, so you’re less likely to accidentally gag her. Letting her have control means better oral pleasure for you, so this is really a no-brainer in
terms of 69 etiquette.
The 69 position can also be done with both of you laying on your sides, which may be a more comfortable option if you plan to keep it going for a longer period of time. This way, you can use each other’s inner thighs as pillows for your heads, making the arrangement very comfy for a more drawn out 69 session. More advice on how to make your next 69 an A+ after the jump.
Don’t forget her
When you’re trying out the 69 position, it’s important to not let the good feelings you are getting distract you from the ones you’re supposed to be giving. This is a mutual oral sex arrangement so it’s not fair if one of you starts concentrating too hard on receiving and neglects to perform as well. If this is a problem for you and you find your mouth constantly becoming lazy while hers is busy, you might be better off performing oral sex on each other separately, so your partner can have your full and undivided attention. This is common sense 69 etiquette.
Stay away from her bum
This position may give you easy access to all her private parts, but it’s part of 69 etiquette to make sure she’s comfortable with it before you explore beyond her vagina. Some people find anal stimulation very pleasurable, but others find it horribly disgusting, so getting an idea of where she stands on the issue before you go anywhere near her bum is a good approach. If she invites you to go there and you’re all for it, then you can let your tongue wander wherever it wants. If you don’t establish this beforehand, you may experience a very abrupt ending to your 69 session.